- atbreyfogle
- Jun 25
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The advantage of growing older is the wisdom to design and create what is next in our lives. I have thought hard about what are the most important pillars that lead to our flourishing. Here they are:

Life Transition Coach
The advantage of growing older is the wisdom to design and create what is next in our lives. I have thought hard about what are the most important pillars that lead to our flourishing. Here they are:
I have the luxury of engaging in philosophical conversations with youth. Here is a list of some advice and observations made as a result of our discussions last month:
Advice
"To fit in one must always belong to themselves."
"You should never take anything for granted."
"You should question everything, and always try to get as much information as possible."
"Talk to strangers because they are really nice and funny."
"Surround yourself with people you love and people who are better than you."
Observations
"Humans are born very simple and become more complex."
"People change based on their experiences so people become more different as time goes on."
"Human nature is shaped by your experiences and people around you."
"People are not simply just or unjust, they are mixed."
When is the last time you checked in with your inner teen-wisdom? Maybe you underestimated her and now in mid-life she has something to say worth listening to...again. Or it's time to throw everything into the wind and re-design. Regardless, there is just the place for you:
You Are Re-designers Now: Bring Mission to Midlife
Safe journeys, Allyson
"We are at last face to face with the fact that our difficulty is a difficulty of the human spirit."
Regardless of our generation, our identity, our contexts, transitions are constant and often necessary if not entirely welcome. This we all share.
Yet, transitions feel uniquely: Personal, Isolating, Confusing, Longer than necessary. This too we share.
We say we want to be happier. What we really want is significance, to be at home with oneself and to like it.
And so our difficulty is “a difficulty of the human spirit.”
To find your way is best done in community. Our next round table discussion “All Things Transitions” is focused on discernment—making use of what we already know to get a little closer to the significance we aspire for.